It is here! October’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month 2015

Domestic Violence Awareness Month

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

I can’t believe a year has gone by so fast, for me it has been a tough one but not as tough as many, who are struggling day to day in violent and emotionally abusive relationships.

I had so much planned last year to raise awareness, events, webinars but the aftermath of Hurricane Sandy (Yes, I know! Some people are still homeless and struggling, hoping and wishing to be back in the houses). Well, it kicked our butt, took a while to recover, but we are survivors and we finally surfaced from the turmoil. It does make you realize though just how incredibly lucky we are.

This year however, we are dedicated to making and bringing changes! So much is planned and already. For this little, humble blog we have some amazing people to introduce you to. Just a little teaser, there will be Mary from Simply Mary and her music dedicated to domestic violence survivors, her story is one of strength and courage, Brett Scudder who helps suicide survivors and runs workshops for domestic violence survivors and a Blog Talk Radio show, Ann Moulds of Action Against Stalking in Scotland. I will also be running a series to help survivors with guest posts from Reiki, Yoga, nutrition and safety!

We are also looking forward to holding events in London, Manchester and hopefully Edinburgh, Scotland this coming year too, Raising funds to give to charities, to help people over come, to survive, to become victors, warriors against Domestic Violence and Stalking.

So to kick off October’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I am giving away FREE eBook copies of A Broken Ring on Smashwords! It can be downloaded in all formats… Kindle, Nook, Kobo, PDF etc.

To claim your free copy just click on the book cover below!

A Broken Ring by Claire Cappetta

Just enter the promotional Coupon Code: SW78Y. It expires on October 31st. So that’s free for the whole month. If you like it please, just write a little review on the ebook site for your eBook, like Kobo, Nook, Amazon for Kindle etc.

So, please this month, let’s raise our voices against violence.

Let’s make a real change this year!

Become victorious, become healthy, be kind to ourselves in healing.


Today is National Coffee Day!

dfeae050c2c50ecb6519d318c31508beToday is National Coffee Day!

Coffee lovers in the US will be in their glory on today as many coffee shops and retailers are offering freebies and deals for the celebration of National Coffee Day, a wonderful made-up holiday celebrated each year on Sept. 29.

Here is a list of participating stores::

Dunkin’ Donuts: Get a free medium iced or hot Dark Roast coffee. Limit one per person. Click here to find a store near you.

McDonald’s: Guests can get a free small McCafé coffee during breakfast hours at participating McDonald’s across the country. Click here for locations.

Peet’s Coffee & Tea: Celebrate with a free small cup of Major Dickason’s Blend, with a food purchase. Click here for locations.

Starbucks: Starbucks is offering $25 off $100 online purchases with code RMN25SEPT. They are also offering 20 percent off in-store purchases on any packaged coffee or merchandise for My Starbucks Rewards Members

Let’s face it who doesn’t like free “stuff”? Especially coffee!


Been a while, my friend…

It’s been a while since my last blog post. I had to take a hiatus, there was just so much to do. So many good plans had to be put aside for a bit, not forgotten, not dumped, just set aside. Sometimes taking care of “Life” takes over but I MISSED you!

I missed my blogging community, I missed sitting in awe at people’s adventures, triumphs, discoveries and achievements. I have made amazing friends through this little blog of mine. It has even had a make over, hope you like it… Pink much? giggles….

There are however, some great interviews coming up in the works, some music to share and of course awareness stories to share which will make you laugh and cry… and of course… Coffee, there always has to be coffee!

Coffee, love and hugs, what could b better? <3
Coffee, love and hugs, what could be better? <3

Stalking Awareness Month 2015

I wanted to say a big thank you for all the support you have given to my work over the last year. It has meant so much and I know this coming year is going to be phenomenal!

I did put out a newsletter is only going out to a few selected people because I wanted to “Give back” but in the end I thought “What he heck!”, let’s really spread awareness!

In the spirit of raising Stalking Awareness in January, I have created a Coupon Code for you on Smashwords for a free Ebook copy of Stalking Liberty, available for all Ereaders, Tablets, iPads etc
To get your free copy of Stalking Liberty enter
Coupon Code: DH26V
at checkout on Smashwords/Stalking Liberty

If you love, enjoy or hate it please let me know and I’ll never turn down a review (giggles)

Stalking Liberty Jan

What if anything you imagined could be real?

What if anything you imagined could be real?

What if if put “Fear” on a back burner for one day?

What could we do?

What could we become?

How many lives could we change for the better?

Everything you can imagine is real

What to know, do and say to stay safe by Dennis Golden and Jennifer Lownik

What to know, do and say to be safe
What to know, do and say to be safe

I was incredibly fortunate and lucky when I first released my book, A Broken Ring. It was my very first venture into publishing a book and at telling my story of survival from abuse. Why was i lucky? Because Dennis Golden of IM-Safe organization was kind enough to give me a review and endorsement for the back cover. I was ecstatic when he sent it to me!  I was so happy, I wrote:

Breaking news!! IM-Safe with my book, A Broken Ring

Dennis and I have kept in touch since. I was thrilled to discover this last summer he was publishing his book, What to know, do and say to stay safe, with Jennifer Lownik, his daughter. He very kindly sent a signed copy to me, which I received this week.

It’s an amazing book!! It really is a “must read!” It covers so many topics to help keep you safe either from a stalker, tips to help in a domestic violent situation, traveling! They give good examples of what to do to keep yourself safe. It’s not really a “How to” book in a sense, it’s more like conversation.

Dennis and Jennifer describe the book perfectly on it’s Amazon page

“Every Woman Needs This Book

While an attack by a total stranger is what women dread, national statistics show the likelihood of such an event is less than10%. The good news … an assault of this type, is the easiest to avoid. The larger concern is that women routinely and unknowingly ignore 90% of threats that surround them daily in work, at play and in life.

In the real world, you are more likely to be stalked by a former partner, become a victim of workplace or domestic violence, or be victimized while traveling far more often than being assaulted by a stranger. Statistics also show that 90% of the time you will be targeted, by someone you know and you will be in location you believe is safe.

What To Know Do And Say To Be Safe, A Woman’s Guide To Personal Safety finally separates the facts from fiction. It fills an important gap by offering real insight on how you as a woman can live safely in a world that is becoming increasingly hostile to your personal safety and security.

This long overdue book gives you immediate access some of the best self-protection tools and strategies the world has ever known. Here you will learn:

• How to safely navigate in a world that is becoming increasingly more hostile to your personal safety and security.

• Ways you can be “armed” with a mental weapon that can never be taken away from you.

• What self-defense “experts” often fail to tell women about real world physical encounters.

• The secrets on knowing how to quickly deescalate any verbal attack at home, at work, anywhere.

• The powerful natural advantages women have when dealing with abusive partners, bullies or predators.

Order you copy today and discover why no woman deserves to live in fear … not from bullies …not from intimate partners … not from strangers.”

If you are thinking of buying a book, buy this!


The most important thing in life is to be happy

We can all get overwhelmed sometimes, life can be overwhelming! A lot has happened to me in the last year with moving, my step-daughter moved out and now we are hoping to be able to plan our next move in 2015, back to the UK. Simple, right? Well, I have two books to finish, an upcoming webinar with amazing guests like Simply Mary, Kimberly Steinmetz, Julie Buhite, Kit Gruelle of the documentary, Private Violence which aired on HBO in October. I was also going to organize a Stalking Awareness Event in January 2015.

I also, dipped my big toe back into the financial world, so currency contracts and bonds were back on the table! Does it make me happy? Yes, I always like to be busy but I have learned a lot over the last few years and it’s really very simple. I ask myself this: Am I loved and does someone care for if I’m around? Do I have a roof over my head tonight? Am I safe? Am I warm and have I eaten? Do I have a bed to sleep in?. The answer has been: Yes. My basic needs and wishes are met. This makes me happy! Of course, I strive for more, it’s natural but I count my blessings that I am loved, safe, warm and not hungry.

We work so incredibly hard for the “bigger house” to “keep up with the Jones’s”, the new car, that we become stressed, anxiety takes over, nights become sleepless. There are many people out there with far less, and are happy. Sometimes, when things are stripped down in our lives we have to take a breath, re-evaluate and move on. Sometimes, the less “things” we have, the less clutter we hold so desperately onto can cause us stress, just like relationships.

At the end of each day, we should ask ourselves if we are happy….


Trust yourself! Trust your instincts…

Sometimes, we second guess our decisions, when our heart tells us one thing but our head says something completely different.

We feel torn especially when we are in bad, destructive relationships. We tell ourselves to run, but we stay. We know from the first meeting that the person is too charming, nice or just wrong. How many times have we fallen for the bad boy or the woman who is a “wild” and we think it’s exciting?

Trust yourself
Trust yourself

Trust yourself, you know more than you think you do! Have you ever gone against your instinct? How did it work out?

6 Tips on Spending the Best Christmas Day on Your Own

Christmas Love
Christmas Love

Christmas is fast coming upon us. One minute we are basking in summer sunshine, the next the temperature drops, sweaters are pulled out of closets and viola! Christmas is here! Unless you live in the Southern Hemisphere, then you are quickly dumping sweaters back into closets. Oh, the thought of warmer days!…

Christmas always brings back a lot of memories for me, some good, some bad and some downright ugly. There is one though, that spins around in my mind now each year. It is one of the Christmas’s I spent alone. There were no friends or family to visit and say hi too. They were all busy with their own families, after all we are told it is a time for sharing time, gifts and food.

My car that year was feeling rather unwell, I know it wasn’t going to a 400 mile trip, so I sent cards and presents and decided to hunker down for some “alone time”. I was nervous about, but I learned a lot from that day. I, also, planned. Yes’ I planned the day out ahead, putting the nerves to rest. After all I can do one important day alone, right? It turned out to be one the best!

If you are spending Christmas this year, don’t fret, you can make it an amazing day too! It can become healing, transforming, relaxing, uplifting and totally indulgently, yours.

Here’s my tips for an amazing soul filling, happy Christmas day:!

1. Plan it, seriously. This will be a day of “Me Time” Plan the food you want because you can go by your own rules! Turkey? Indulge a littleHam? Sure! But you can think outside the box without offending anyone. It is open and the ideas endless. Sushi? Lasagne? A frozen meal to make it easy, to just pop into the microwave or oven. A day to yourself means not spending hours slaving in the kitchen, unless you find cooking, relaxing or therapeutic, if so enjoy!

2. Take a stroll. Just because we are on our own doesn’t mean we can’t go out. I took a stroll down the harbor. I sat on a bench watched people hurriedly walk their dogs so they could get back to their families. They had after all, been told to hurry. I sat on a bench, and watched the boats bob up and down in the water, hearing their masts clang, as the wind that tugged at my coat and hat, tugged at them too. It was peaceful, I hadn’t seen the harbor so quiet, it felt like it was mine just for a short time.

3. Be self indulgent! Before the day arrives, treat yourself to something purely for yourself and your senses. I had bought

Time to relax
Time to relax

some luxurious bath salts and candles. I had prepared for my own at home spa. The ringer was turned off, candles lit, scrubs washes and oils filled my senses. It warmed and coddled me after my stroll, heaven!

4. Put some time aside to call, Skype, Hangout with those you want to wish a Happy Christmas too. Enjoy the family, friends you would like to be with but can’t be. Connect simply and enjoy the moments. After all none of us are total islands!

5. Buy yourself a gift, because you deserve it! I had bought myself a Martina Cole novel I had been excited to read and a cheap guitar, along with the book “Learn the Guitar for Dummies! I snuggled down on my sofa to be lost in Martina’s world of London, East End crime drama. I struggled and laughed as I learned some new basic keys on the guitar until my fingers felt a little sore. It felt strange to press on the strings and find a tune, but absolutely worth it.

6. Watch, the movie you have always wanted to watch but never had time, because of all the usual commitments our normal, daily lives hold for us.

When we are busy all year, our minds active, it can be difficult to unwind, to let our minds drift. To stop and breathe, simply for just one day with no commitments but to ourselves. It gives us a chance to really decide what we want for the new year ahead.  We can make each moment count, for it to be a blessing and to be our authentic selves.

What do you plan this Christmas? Do you have plans even just moments for self care?

Some decadent self indulgences?

Can you “See the Triumph”?

See the Triumph org
See the Triumph org

A couple of months back Christine Murray and I were communicating about Domestic Violence Awareness. She kindly asked me if I would like to contribute a post for See the Triumph organization, which helps raise awareness against violence and abuse. I leaped at the chance!

“The goals of See the Triumph are: (and I quote):

* To share empowering messages that people can overcome their abuse and create positive, nonviolent lives

* To describe strategies that have worked for other survivors to help them overcome their abuse and the stigma related to it

* To promote a new view of battering survivors that shows them as triumphant, courageous, and resourceful”

It was exciting to see the first post I wrote:

What Everyday advocacy Means to Me, in July

I have since had the opportunity to write two more, one for August and October’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

What If I Tell My Story and I’m Alive Today Because of My Friend.

If you are interested they are currently recruiting participants for a new study on immigrants’ perceptions of intimate partner violence, stigma, and culture. To learn more about this study, click here:

See the Triumph is the result of research studies with survivors of past abusive intimate relationships who have been out of any abusive situations for at least two years. These studies were conducted by Dr. Christine Murray at The University of North Carolina at Greensboro and Dr. Allison Crowe at East Carolina University.

If you are a survivor of domestic violence, why not hop on over to their website! You’ll be welcomed.

Please note: See the Triumph is not a crisis response resource. If you need immediate assistance for a crisis-related domestic violence situation, please contact your local authorities immediately. In the United States, you may call the National Domestic Violence Hotline:; 1−800−799−SAFE(7233), or TTY 1−800−787−3224.